Shutting Yourself Down Before You Start

writer_brainDo you ever find that you talk yourself out of doing something?  Doesn’t matter what it is, but in your head, you tell your self ‘no’, that it won’t work out, that you can’t do it.

I was talking about this recently to someone and it’s interesting to me the walls we put up without any outside input or discussion.

Some of it comes from people telling us we can’t do this or that.  If it happens often enough, we internalize it and don’t need the outside forces anymore – it’s all in our heads.

Talking with others, hearing how they combat the inner critic is interesting to me.  And I think it helps.

If you do this to yourself, why?  Do you work to change?  Do you talk to others and hear their stories?  Does it help?

1 Comment

  • J.T. Evans Posted April 18, 2014 11:49 am

    I do this all the time at work. I’ll come with a concept or approach to solve a software problem, but there’s something in the back of my head that tells me I’m missing something. That’s when I’ll hit the white board, grab a peer, and hash out the details of what I’m thinking. Sometimes, I’ll have the spark of brilliance on my own as my jaws flap, but many times my co-worker will point out what I was missing but couldn’t quite put my finger on.

    As far as talking myself out of doing things, that’s rare. Usually, I have to do this on purpose just to say “no” to a proposal or idea or project just to save my sanity from being spread too thin.

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